Relationships I feel are the hardest things to manage in life. Maybe, because it involves people and people have so many emotions, thoughts, preferences etc; each unique in their own way. I often thought of life as black & white. But as I grow older, I have realized the growing shadow area between black & white and how the grey area now seems to be the dominant one….Most often, the truth is right in front of us but then to most people, the truth is only what they are prepared to see.
We run away from confrontations because it’s probably easy to do that rather than confront the situation.
We all say ‘wish life was simple’ and I think it is. It’s ‘us’ that makes it complicated. Is it because we live in such a complicated world that simplicity is a long forgotten concept? People live with their egos closer to their heart than they let other emotions do…
A case in point is a dear friend who was seeing this lovely lady - A very successful, intelligent woman. They just kind of had a fight over some petty issue and each held to his/her ground. Both didn’t want to take the first step least it showed them as the weaker of the two or the one more desperate. Friends tried to patch things up but all in vain. And it made me think that compromising or adjusting has suddenly become all too tabooed. In the zest to hold your own, people are willing to let go of things and people that bring happiness and purpose in life. Wouldn’t it just be easier to let go off your ego?
Happiness is now a myth. Most of the people I see around find happiness in their misery. Blame it on life, on people around them, their fate, something they deserve etc. I see more and more people having such a myopic attitude towards life.
It’s important to live in the moment and make that moment livable too. If the moment in which we try to live is questioned on the how’s and whys and what ought to be or not, then it is probably better not to live in it at all.
A friendship they say is for keeps. Yet today how many of us have shoulders to lean on outside our immediate familial relationships? In a highly competitive and result oriented world, we seem to be drifting away from each other all the time. People are wary to get close. They want to maintain a distance. It’s not that the world is short of amiable individuals, but we surely have forgotten how to maintain positive camaraderie. In a mad rush to keep up with the fast changing pace of urban living, we fail to nurture and care for basic ties of love and warmth that binds us all together.
Everyday our life demands a lot from us, be it relationships, job, responsibilities etc. I am not saying that we should ignore those we do not like. I am simply saying - to myself, if no one else - to keep the bigger picture in mind. Things or people that do not matter, need not demand and get our valuable time. Don’t sweat on irrelevant stuff. It’s not worth it. But those that do matter, make sure you treasure them. A good relationship today is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with self-respect, individuality and allows your need to grow.
The days are long but life is surely short…So in the long and short of life, don’t forget to LIVE LIFE!!!!
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